Lately I've been thinking about what is obsolete (and no longer working) for the 21st century modern boardroom. This was the challenge Ira Millstein sent us out the door with from our time at the Yale Governance Forum 2011. He reminded us that "Good governance requires more than compliance with mandates, it requires voluntary initiatives."

Board chairs are granted a unique role in setting the boardroom agenda. With the privilege of leadership, they are accountable for leading change in their boardroom and supporting their CEO to focus business strategy on the future.

The KPMG 2011 Audit Committee Institute Spring Roundtable polled over 1,500 directors on managing technology risk. Here is the self-assessment.

Although almost 75% of the ACI responses suggest "we’re on top of technology's rapid change," I’m seeing a different picture emerge.

BRANDFog, a C-Suite advisory firm for the web's social media says for executives "If You're Not Online, You Don't Exist." As a board chair, it is important to have directors focused on what your CEO is doing/not doing on the web relative to reputation and brand management. This all reflects on the board's reputation, especially in the eyes of investors and stakeholders.

Here are some indications of adoption in the C-Suite:

• Only 5% of all Fortune 500 CEOs are on Twitter
• 64% of CEOs are NOT engaged on company or social websites
• Only 13 Fortune 500 CEOs have active Twitter accounts
• Only 4% of global CEOs have a profile on Facebook or LinkedIn

This is in comparison to the growth of social networking from a society perspective. Facebook alone has:

• More than 750 million active users
• 50% of active users log on to Facebook in any given day
• Average user has 130 friends
• People spend over 700 billion minutes per month on Facebook

With a global reach:

• More than 70 translations available on the site
• About 70% of Facebook users are outside the United States

So, how is a board chair going to bridge this disconnect between stakeholders, their CEO and their board with their own limited knowledge of how it works? Yes, we can write white papers and frame up questions for the boardroom. I believe it begins with a private conversation with the board chair to hear about their beliefs around technology.

Last week, I attended a "private event" that convened a dinner table with directors, academics, professional advisors and institutional investors from marquee brand firms.

I was wearing two hats: as a board member for NACD Southern California and as an independent advisor to board chairs. I was also there to share my experience as a risk expert engaged with the Twitter corporate governance community.

I was delighted to hear from the various perspectives that are adapting to a post Dodd-Frank world. More significantly, I was able to gain a better understanding from the viewpoints of others in the governance community. It is not always easy to "walk in other's shoes."

I also got a chance to see some beliefs expressed about social media, risk and asymmetrical information that, when expressed in public, are the equivalent of a "your zipper's down" moment.

It was brought home when I got this response about social media as a relevant board room capability:

I run companies and chair multiple boards. I have nothing to do with social media. I am a social media outcast with no Facebook or Twitter accounts and no intention of joining these things soon. I know that this is not "mainstream," but there were many people in the room who feel the same.

I shared this perspective with my Twitter community and got some social media wisdom:

Douglas Y. Park
His company sure does, so he should too. MT @fayfeeney: F250 chair emails me "I ... have nothing to do with social media." #risk

Dr. Richard Leblanc
@fayfeeney @DougYPark is it any wonder hacking, privacy, business interruption; IT investment risk is so poor?

So, what can be done to save a board chair from embarrassment? Remember, if it is done right, you'll go up a notch for your nerve and for limiting personal exposure.

1. Use Discretion
   Find a way to let them know that this belief that they don't need to learn about social media and technology negatively represents their brand and could hurt their personal reputation as a leader.
2. Be a Colleague not just Collegial
   Think for a moment, if it were you. Would you rather someone tell you, or just pretend nothing was awry? We would all like for someone to alert us in a way that was discreet and didn't make us feel like it was a major focus of attention.
3. You See This as Having Too Much Personal Political Risk
   1. This might be time for you to call in support. I consider it an honor to meet with board chairs. I find a meal together makes this an easier conversation. Telling someone their "digital zipper" is down is best done while breaking bread.
   2. Print this post and leave it in the chair's in-basket or have it sent as a pre-briefing to the board meeting.

These conversations require willingness for the board chair to see that the world is changing. Accepting the change begins with leading the way for new thinking.

My approach is to listen to the belief usually around changing (no time, not important, someone else knows about it, I get my information by management, I get emails, etc.).

Board chairs operate with a belief system that has served them well in the past, very well. When asking them to look at these beliefs, the Risk for Good model is risk-based. We talk about their perceptions around:

• Susceptibility: belief that not focusing on technology risk on their business could cause loss.
• Severity: consequences of not taking action are serious enough to be avoided.
• Barriers: institutional, people, resources, resistance to change, belief and attitudes, education, training, etc.
• Benefits: connecting to real-time data and extending relationship reach are necessary for future strategy and performance.

Our next step to engage is to get the board chair to consider replacing the beliefs we identified with a willingness to see "how it works." This includes a personal tour of Google and other social networks specific to them, their board, company and competitors.

This is a time of great change for all of us. Some of us are faster and others are taking their time. For all, this is just the beginning and not too late for anyone to grasp the fundamentals. It reminds me of boarding a plane; we all take off together at the same time. However, you do need to get to the airport to board.

The mistake to avoid is to not say anything. The cost of not telling could be high if it appears that you knew and kept quiet. Good leaders want feedback to improve their performance.

So, here's hoping all your "digital zippers" are right where you want them.

In today's global, 24/7, digitally-connected work, you want to be connected to what is being said on social media about you, your board or your industry.